Always Ask The Child’s Mother First

Another good article yg patut korang baca.
Memang la kadang-kadang ada budak-budak yg we cannot resist nak bg diorg mkn coklat atau gula-gula. But please, please, please, ASK THE MOTHER first ya.

Aku memang cukup tak suka bila orang pandai-pandai bg anak kita makan gula-gula or whatsoever junk food without my permission. Memang la kesian budak nak makan tapi kalau tanya pd aku dulu, apa la salahnya. Aku boleh je distract balik my children and bg diorang makan benda lain.

Memang la orang ckp, ala nanti dah besar diorang makan jugak jajan2 semua tu. But as for me, selagi diorang masih di bawah jagaan aku, di bawah kawalan aku, I will try my best to control them. Bila dah di luar kawalan aku, itu lain cerita, nak buat mcm mana kan. Dah besar nanti pandai-pandai la jaga diri sendiri. At least time kecik-kecik ni takde la kena kencing manis ke hapa, mcm anak kwn aku tu. He's only 7 yrs old, and already been diagnosed with diabetes. and berpunca sbb minum air gas everyday. kesian oke.

So sila la baca ya.
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Always Ask The Child’s Mother First

Before I had them, I was the doting aunt that didn’t mind being around kids.

There was once a baby shower where boyfriends, husbands and kids were invited.  A cute little boy (whose mom was then an acquaintance but has now become a good friend) came running up to me.  I was seated at the dessert table, and he pointed towards the goodies behind me.  I saw he was asking for a brownie, and I automatically reached over to get one for him.  He was too cute to resist!

Somewhere in the motions of me reaching for the brownie and him reaching up towards the said dessert, I caught his mom’s gaze from afar.  smiled and mouthed, “he’s asking for this“.  My hand hadn’t made it all the way down (and his fingers were inches away from the brownie) when she jumped up and ran to get him, saying, “No no no no…” to me.  She did it very pleasantly, but in the end the little boy realized he’d been spotted and that he wasn’t going to get his brownie treat.  He started to cry, but his (wise) mom was able to distract him quickly enough with something else.

I also caught my then-boyfriend-now husband looking at me and he reprimanded, “You should have asked first.”

What I couldn’t understand then is something I TOTALLY understand, practice and advocate now.

I find I’m constantly in that mom’s shoes:  pulling my kids away because well-meaning friends, family and relatives just hand my kids sweets, treats, and all these other things without checking with me first.  I understand everyone just wants to see them happy, but it doesn’t make my job as a parent any easier (and parenting is already hard to begin with!).  In fact every time I’m put in this position, I think of that mom friend and how irritated she must have felt towards me then.  I don’t blame her, because that’s how I feel now!  Even when the children are polite and ask nicely or wait patiently for their turn.  I have been told many times that my kids are hard to resist… but I cannot say it enough:  PLEASE ASK ME FIRST.

Moms are already the bad cop by default, and we don’t want anything else to reinforce that unless it’s absolutely necessary.  Often enough we’re the rule enforcer, the one that’s more strict, and the “un-fun” one (as my niece would say).  We have rules that you may not know about.  And we have rules that are different from your own, for reasons you may not understand.  I’m personally happy to share ours when asked though, and I would guess that other moms would too.

What if the child is allergic to something you offer, or it’s against the doctor’s orders?  Only a mother will know.  And it’s safe to assume that if the nanny also tells you so — then take heed (because in my case) she has been properly briefed.

Another thing is to ask mom IN PRIVATE.  If you dangle chocolates in front of a child’s face and say “Look what I have!  Oh but let’s ask your mom first,” it puts us moms in an awkward position.  And the poor child, it’s like such a big tease to see it and to not be able to get it!  It’s not fair to them and all the more it causes trouble.  But I’ve also found that if I’m consulted first in private, if it doesn’t go against some of our non-negotiables (like no sweets after 6pm), I will bend and compromise.  I’m happy to find a win-win-win solution, because I too like seeing my kids happy and being given special care and treatment.  But I need your cooperation too, as do most moms.

Why should we give every mother this courtesy?  Because all our parenting styles are different.  We all operate under different rules and circumstances.  This small effort is a subtle way to show mom, “I respect your style.”  Letting mom know can also help her plan a little better.  And give us moms the benefit of the doubt.  We don’t want to be mean or difficult, just because.  In the end, whatever happens to our children, be it a tummy ache, an allergic reaction or a tantrum — we have to deal with it.  We have to explain why and why not.  It’s all on us.

Something else needs to be said too.  When you ask — WAIT FOR A RESPONSE.  Some people know the “rule”, are great at asking — but they don’t bother waiting for mom to reply!  They just do what they want anyway.  Why ask then, out of posterity?!

How can you expect them NOT to want it? It’s a totally unfair test of E.Q.

Once I was asked if Sam could have chocolates (this was before lunch).  I said yes she can have a few but after she eats a proper meal (who doesn’t know that chocolates ruin a child’s good appetite anyway?!).  The chocolates were left in front of my poor daughter who just kept staring at them.  After a few minutes of Sam’s prodding (that I was so patiently trying to ward off), my instructions were ignored and Sam was told she could reach into the box and take a small bite.  That’s not exactly very helpful is it?!

This is for all the other moms and parents who go through the same things I do.  I am completely aware — no one purposely wants to cause trouble, or break the rules.  Everyone just wants to help or to please the child.  But I hope this helps us all realize that the best help you can give is to mom by asking first (and listening next of course).   Just respect that boundary, and things will go smoothly.  Everyone will get what they want, and we’ll all live happily ever after.

he just realized, marriage is not for him

yes he just realized, marriage is not for him.
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Marriage Isn’t For You

Seth Adam Smith / November 2, 2013



Kim & I

 

Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.

Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.
I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.
My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.

My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.

But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and aguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.

I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.

To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.

And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.

Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you.
It’s for others.

What a 4 years old should know?

aku selalu cakap kat hubby, nanti dah besar, biarlah Danish and Aaira pilih jalan masing2, tak perlu paksa utk belajar pandai2 sgt, jadi dokter or engineer, sebab aku lebih suka jika mereka lalui segala keseronokan dan kesusahan hidup yg aku dan hubby dah rasa.

and to be frank, I prefer them to be a teacher or run their own business, and have control of their own time.

Danish is almost 3 and I know he's a brilliant kid. I don't have to teach him abc or 123 or alif ba ta, and he already knows everything. I let him play whatever it is that he wants to play, tengok la kartun sampai la mama suruh tido, and I let him enjoy his life as a toddler for now.

kawan2 aku ramai yg dah plan nak hantar anak-anak ke kelas piano, art classes, kumon, nuri, etc2 tapi pd aku, entah ya.

the time will come.

as long as he's happy, healthy, menurut cakap ibu bapa, then all is well with me. aku lebih risau jika nanti dia terjebak dgn kawan2 yg tak berapa nak baik, and things likes drugs and all that, daripada nak risaukan dia tak dpt straight A's in UPSR.

bukan la maksud aku tak payah belajar pandai2, belajar tetap kena belajar, but there's more to life than being the top of the class. not necessarily to be number 1. number 3 or 4 is ok what?

and read this is hokey.
it is something good yg patut semua ibu bapa tahu.

Written by a Pre-School Teacher – It says it all!


I was on a parenting bulletin board recently and read a post by a mother who was worried that her 4 1/2 year old did not know enough. “What should a 4 year old know?” she asked.

Most of the answers left me not only saddened but pretty soundly annoyed. One mom posted a laundry list of all of the things her son knew. Counting to 100, planets, how to write his first and last name, and on and on. Others chimed in with how much more their children already knew, some who were only three. A few posted URL’s to lists of what each age should know. The fewest yet said that each child develops at his own pace and not to worry.

It bothered me greatly to see these mothers responding to a worried mom by adding to her concern, with lists of all the things their children could do that hers couldn’t. We are such a competitive culture that even our pre-schoolers have become trophies and bragging rights. Childhood shouldn’t be a race.

So here, I offer my list of what a 4 year old should know.

She should know that she is loved wholly and unconditionally, all of the time.

He should know that he is safe and he should know how to keep himself safe in public, with others, and in varied situations. He should know that he can trust his instincts about people and that he never has to do something that doesn’t feel right, no matter who is asking. He should know his personal rights and that his family will back them up.

She should know how to laugh, act silly, be goofy and use her imagination. She should know that it is always okay to paint the sky orange and give cats 6 legs.

He should know his own interests and be encouraged to follow them. If he could care less about learning his numbers, his parents should realize he’ll learn them accidentally soon enough and let him immerse himself instead in rocket ships, drawing, dinosaurs or playing in the mud.

She should know that the world is magical and that so is she. She should know that she’s wonderful, brilliant, creative, compassionate and marvellous. She should know that it’s just as worthy to spend the day outside making daisy chains, mud pies and fairy houses as it is to practice phonics. Scratch that– way more worthy.

But more important, here’s what parents need to know.

That every child learns to walk, talk, read and do algebra at his own pace and that it will have no bearing on how well he walks, talks, reads or does algebra.

That the single biggest predictor of high academic achievement and high ACT scores is reading to children. Not flash cards, not workbooks, not fancy preschools, not blinking toys or computers, but mom or dad taking the time every day or night (or both!) to sit and read them wonderful books.

That being the smartest or most accomplished kid in class has never had any bearing on being the happiest. We are so caught up in trying to give our children “advantages” that we’re giving them lives as multi-tasked and stressful as ours. One of the biggest advantages we can give our children is a simple, carefree childhood.

That our children deserve to be surrounded by books, nature, art supplies and the freedom to explore them.

Most of us could get rid of 90% of our children’s toys and they wouldn’t be missed, but some things are important– building toys like lego and blocks, creative toys like all types of art materials (good stuff), musical instruments (real ones and multicultural ones), dress up clothes and books, books, books. (Incidentally, much of this can be picked up quite cheaply at thrift shops.)

They need to have the freedom to explore with these things too– to play with scoops of dried beans in the high chair (supervised, of course), to knead bread and make messes, to use paint and play dough and glitter at the kitchen table while we make supper even though it gets everywhere, to have a spot in the yard where it’s absolutely fine to dig up all the grass and make a mud pit.

That our children need more of us. We have become so good at saying that we need to take care of ourselves that some of us have used it as an excuse to have the rest of the world take care of our kids. Yes, we all need undisturbed baths, time with friends, sanity breaks and an occasional life outside of parenthood. But we live in a time when parenting magazines recommend trying to commit to 10 minutes a day with each child and scheduling one Saturday a month as family day. That’s not okay!

Our children don’t need Nintendos, computers, after school activities, ballet lessons, play groups and soccer practice nearly as much as they need US. They need fathers who sit and listen to their days, mothers who join in and make crafts with them, parents who take the time to read them stories and act like idiots with them. They need us to take walks with them and not mind the .1 MPH pace of a toddler on a spring night. They deserve to help us make supper even though it takes twice as long and makes it twice as much work. They deserve to know that they’re a priority for us and that we truly love to be with them.

and yes, this is what a 4 year old should know.
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I have a very sweet tooth, and teringat dulu waktu study di MMU, pernah berulang-alik ke Secret Recipe almost everyday to buy their delicious cakes. tapi la ni, bila dah rasa segala kek buatan my sis-in-law who is our official chef at Cheezylicious Cakes, dah tak teringin lansung ke Secret Recipe.

mmg sedap gila kek yg dia buat! i tak tipuuu!! especially the Red Velvet, Oreo Cheese, Rainbow Cake & Moist Choc Cake. it's like melting in your mouth hokey! and aku of course pemakan setia setiap kek yg dia buat =p

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of us.

Memang sangat-sangat lama aku tak menulis secara peribadi di sini.
di blog yg sangat-sangat aku cintai.

Tapi tadi, membaca blog LadyNoe, dan melihat segala yg berlaku di kiri dan kanan di sini, terus hati terdetik.

alhamdulillah ya Allah atas segala yg aku ada pada hari ini.
alhamdulillah...

di saat kawan-kawan bloggers seangkatan menempuh kesakitan berulang-alik ke Mahkamah Syariah, menghadapi saat perpisahan yang itu ini, dan di saat kawan-kawan bloggers lain yg dulu sama-sama sibuk membuat persiapan perkahwinan PERTAMA, kini sibuk ke sana ke mari membuat persediaan perkahwinan kali KEDUA, aku ada dia yg masih sentiasa setia di sisi.

alhamdulillah ya Allah.

Tahun ini genap 4 tahun kami berkahwin.
orang kata, alaa baru setahun jagung.
but I'm sooo pedulik hape kan.
years is just numbers.

yes, it does makes you wiser with experience tapi if dah berkahwin 20 tahun pun masih tiada persefahaman, dok bergaduh hari-hari, tak guna la nombor yg dua-puluh itu kan?

Tipu la kalau aku cakap tak pernah gaduh kan, tak pernah kecik ati, merajuk semua. tapi kalau setakat benda-benda kecik nak campak pinggan mangkuk corelle bagai, fuhhh sayang tuh. so gaduh adalah sekejap, merajuk pun adalah sekejap. kalau baik2 je pun tak best jugak. mesti ada kaler2 sikit dlm kehidupan, kan.

Sometimes, tiny litte things boleh membuatkan sesuatu yg kita bina tu hancur, and sometimes tiny little things juga yg membuatkan perhubungan kita bertahan dan bahagia.

we're not perfect.
no, we're not.

I AM NOT.

but we're perfect for each other.
and we're content with what we have now.
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and I'm glad that he does enjoy his current job, and that’s why he seems so happy now — because he is.

yg ni akan dicerita lain kali ye. arini tak sempat.

seriously aku memang nak tulis panjang panjangggg sangat sebab macam dah terlalu lama tak berkongsi apa-apa cerita di sini. but as usual, alasan adalah bizi.

bizi dengan kehidupan duniawi, anak-anak, suami, full-time job here at an oil & gas company, owner of CHARMS & COLORS, Cheezylicious Cakes (oh we have 4 flavors in the house now : Red Velvet, ChocOreo Cheese, Blueberry Cheese & Tiramisu Creme), membasuh kain, mengemas rumah, and we're in the mid of setting up our shop lot here at Pasir Gudang dan pukul 9.30 mlm akhirnya pensan dengan anak-anak. hihi

so, arini cuma dpt berkongsi beberapa tips yg aku rasa antara yg terbaik untuk korang amalkan dlm mencapai kebahagiaan dlm rumahtangga.
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Tahukah anda beberapa teknik dan kunci yang paling berkesan dalam perkahwinan yang berjaya? Mendapatkan cinta yang sebenar ialah langkah pertama yang perlu dilakukan untuk mencapainya. Kita bukan bercakap mengenai cinta yang sekadar berlaku di bilik tidur atau sebagainya yang zahir di mata, tetapi lebih daripada itu. Cinta yang diperlukan ialah cinta yang sebenar-benarnya dan sedalam-dalamnya terhadap pasangan kita. Cinta yang menjadikan kita sentiasa meletakkan diri kita dalam kedudukan dan fikiran pasangan kita. Cinta yang menyebabkan kita akan melakukan apa sahaja demi membahagiakan hidup pasangan kita. Itulah cinta yang perlu ada dalam perkahwinan kita.

Cinta yang sebegini menuntut kita bersikap lebih sabar, banyakkan mendengar dengan penuh perhatian terhadap pasangan dan tidak membangkitkan sebarang pertelingkahan yang tidak menunjukkan kematangan kita. Anda sedar bahawa bersikap agresif dan sentiasa melebih-lebih dalam masalah kecil bukanlah suatu penyelesaian terbaik dan pasti tidak akan menyenangkan perasaan pasangan anda.

Namun, jangan jadikan seks sebagai fokus utama walaupun seks merupakan salah satu faktor dalam mengekalkan hubungan yang menggembirakan dan menyenangkan. Sebenarnya seks yang tidak dirancang iaitu melakukan hubungan seks pada waktu-waktu tertentu secara tiba-tiba dan ditambah sedikit kejutan kepada pasangan dapat menjadi penawar kepada kebosanan dalam perhubungan. Tambahan lagi, belajar untuk mendalami ilmu-ilmu berkaitan panduan seks dan hubungan romantik akan dapat menjamin kebahagiaan yang lebih kepada pasangan.

Langkah kedua adalah meningkatkan kemahiran komunikasi bersama pasangan. Statistik menunjukkan kebanyakan pasangan pada hari ini tidak mengambil berat soal komunikasi ketika melayari bahtera perkahwinan. Hal inilah yang menyebabkan mereka sering berselisih faham dan tidak menyelesaikan masalah dalam perkahwinan mereka seterusnya membawa kepada perceraian. Belajar untuk berkomunikasi dengan baik akan lebih mengukuhkan perhubungan anda. Komunikasi ini termasuklah dengan sentiasa mendengar apa sahaja yang diberitahu pasangan, elakkan bercakap perkara yang tidak berfaedah serta merumitkan keadaan dan juga sentiasa bersikap jujur antara satu sama lain.

Langkah yang ketiga adalah dengan dengan sentiasa melengkapi dan bertolak-ansur dengan pasangan. Menjadi pemenang dalam sesuatu pertengkaran kecil atau besar bukan termasuk dalam matlamat perkahwinan. Perkahwinan yang bahagia terhasil daripada sikap bertolak ansur dan sanggup melupakan kepentingan diri demi kebahagiaan pasangan dan seterusnya menjamin perkahwinan yang berkekalan. Pasangan yang gagal untuk berfikiran terbuka dan bertolak ansur dengan kekurangan pasangan pasti akan menjerumuskan perkahwinan mereka ke dalam masalah yang lebih besar seperti berlakunya perceraian.

Langkah yang terakhir adalah dengan berkongsi minat, keinginan dan matlamat perkahwinan bersama pasangan. Jika anda dan pasangan mempunyai matlamat yang berlainan dalam perkahwinan, ianya akan menyukarkan anda untuk terus mengekalkan hubungan yang bahagia. Asas perkahwinan yang mantap biasanya dipengaruhi oleh keinginan yang hampir sama antara pasangan. Untuk itu, sentiasalah mencipta kenangan yang terindah bersama pasangan dan sering diingati agar ianya dapat mengembangkan minat dan menyegarkan perhubungan perkahwinan setiap masa walaupun semakin berusia.

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saya yang gembira!

yes, saya telah hidup dengan gembira.
alhamdulillah...
dua belas tahun yang lalu, waktu mula-mula menulis blog (bukan yang ini), saya merupakan seorang yang sangat sedeh dan kasihan pada diri sendiri.

no, really!

di kiri dan kanan tiada sesiapa walaupun dikelilingi ramai kawan. and seriously I don't know how, and why and when, tiba-tiba ditakdirkan kembali ke Johor, bertemu cik hubby, hidup telah berubah menjadi begini.

berkali-kali alhamdulillah ya Allah...

terima kasih dikurniakan suami yg sangat memahami, merangkap pengawal peribadi, merangkap despatch, merangkap pengurus syarikat kami dan berdiri menyokong di belakang saya sepanjang waktu. my other half, anak-anak yg baik, sempurna, dan sentiasaaa saya sayangi!

sekarang saya mempunyai pekerjaan yang baik, melakukan sesuatu yang saya suka melalui perniagaan yang saya suka.

kelmarin hubby cakap, cyg ni bawa tuah la. sejak hubby kenal cyg, hidup sentiasa murah dgn rezeki. tak putus2 kan.

no dear, I don't think it's me.
it's u who did it all, who brought me to this happiness.

alhamdulillah ya Allah... sesungguhnya saya bersyukur dikurniakan segalanya yang hari ini :)

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Cara Keluarkan Kahak Bayi

Sebab Danish and Aaira selalu kena selsema and acute bronchitis, hari ini saya mau share satu panduan bagus yg diambil dari littlemamadiary.com

Semoga bermanfaat untuk kita semua ye :)

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Rawatan Stim @ Steam Treatment dan Percussion

Masa Izzah di hospital dulu.. rawatan dimulakan dengan nebuliser diikuti dengan tepukan teknik percussion. Tujuannya untuk melonggarkan kahak dalam paru-paru sebelum dikeluarkan dengan suction.

Benda-benda berikut boleh digunakan untuk rawatan stim di rumah bagi mengeluarkan kahak baby. Pilih salah satu yang sedia ada di rumah.

• Bottle steam sterilizer (apa-apa brand steam strelizer) – 20 minit
• Periuk nasi – 20 minit
• Bottle & food warmer – 20 minit
• Baldi berisi air panas – 10 minit (air panas cepat sejuk)

Campurkan dengan air salah satu bahan-bahan anti-bakteria berikut

• Minyak habbatus sauda’
• Minyak bawang putih @ garlic (pecahkan kapsul garlic atau buat sendiri minyak)
• Bawang putih fresh yang diketuk
• Serbuk bawang putih

Kalau ada shower air panas. Boleh buka shower tu sampai toilet penuh wap. Kemudian bawa anak masuk dan duduk dalam tu selama 15 minit.

Saya gunakan Avent Bottle Steam Sterilizer ni. Warisan masa Izzah baby dulu.. sejak 2008 lagi…dah 6 tahun benda alah ni… teeheeee.

Izzah dulu bottle feeding formula milk so Avent Bottle Steam Sterilizer ni sangat penting untuk nyah kuman botol susu dia.

Sekarang saya gunakan sterilizer ni untuk nyah kuman botol susu (Irfan fully breastfeeding dan minum EBM masa saya bekerja) dan juga nyahkuman pam Medela Free Style saya tu.

Avent Bottle Steam Sterilizer ni juga boleh digunakan untuk rawatan stim. Sangat berguna!

Kalau tak ada sterilizer macam ni boleh je gunakan periuk nasi elektrik (semua orang ada ni kannn). Just masukkan air dalam periuk nasi dan bagi air tu mendidih. Mudah kan?

Kalau sterilizer dan periuk nasi elektrik pun tak ada… boleh je letak air panas mendidih dalam baldi. Bagi baby sedut wap air panas tu. Tapi air panas dalam baldi ni cepat sejuk dan hilang wap dia. So.. saya tak berapa suka kaedah ini.

Selain air… saya campur juga minyak habbatus sauda’ dalam air supaya kesan anti-bakteria habbatus sauda bercampur dengan wap air yang disedut baby.

Boleh juga gunakan bawang putih dalam bentuk minyak, serbuk atau pun bawang putih fresh yang diketuk-ketuk. Bawang putih kan anti bakteria jugak.

Posisi Bayi Semasa Rawatan Stim

Sebaiknya kita letak sterilizer di tepi kita dan bayi diletakkan atas peha kita secara melintang.

Sebenarnya tak kisah pun posisi baby macam mana.

Janji muka dia berada di atas strelizer dan hidungnya dapat sedut wap panas bercampur habbatus sauda atau bawang putih tu.

Teknik Tepukan Percussion

Mudah saja tepukan percussion ni. Bentukkan tapak tangan macam cuping dan tepuk sebelah kanan dan kiri belakang baby. Jangan tepuk direct tulang belakang tau. Tepuk kat tepi sahaja.

Lepas tu boleh pusing baby dan tepuk bahagian depan tepi sahaja.

Saya buat tepukan percussion ni masa rawatan stim dijalankan. So.. kahak dalam paru-paru (jika ada) akan terus dilonggarkan untuk dikeluarkan.

Kalau nak buat lepas rawatan stim pun boleh je. Janji buat.

Masa rawatan stim confirm baby akan menangis punya lah.

Jangan pulak kita kesian pulak kalau baby menangis masa rawatan stim. Sebab lagi kuat dia menangis… lagi cepat lendir hingus @ kahak akan dikeluarkan

Saya buat masa rawatan stim sebab tepukan percussion ni boleh menenangkan bayi.

So… tak lah dia meronta-ronta masa muka kena wap panas tu kan.

Lendir @ Mukus @ Hingus Keluar Dengan Banyak

First time Irfan kena rawatan stim tu…. o la la!!!

Banyak giler lendir hingus yang keluar dari hidung dia. Serius banyak. Pekat dan berwarna hijau pulak tu.

Patut lah dia susah nak bernafas masa menyusu. Hingus @ lendir pekat yang melekat dan berkumpul dalam rongga hidung tu puncanya.

Saya memang ada sedut guna nasal aspirator tapi biasanya tak banyak hingus yang keluar. Warna pun putih jernih.

Tapi bila buat rawatan stim ni… ambik ko… sekilo hingus keluar. Siap meleleh jatuh ke bawah lagi tu.

Tu ok lagi… yang hingus jadi bubble tu harus mak nak ketawa nak…heh heh.

Rawatan stim ni saya buat selama 20 minit.

Lepas rawatan stim dan tepukan percussion, saya gunakan nasal aspirator untuk sedut saki-baki lendir hingus dari dalam hidung.

Sebab hingus dan banyak meleleh keluar so masa sedut dapat sikit je lah.

Sudah habis rawatan stim, tepukan percussion dan sesi menyedut hingus tu.. wajiblah bagi upah susu pada baby…heh heh!

Memang bagus sangat rawatan stim dan tepukan percussion ni untuk keluarkan kahak dan hingus baby.

Malam tu Irfan tidur dengan sangat lenanya!

Tips Rawatan Stim & Teknik Percussion

Ulang rawatan stim dan tepukan percussion selama 2 kali sehari untuk beberapa hari hingga kahak/hingus tiada lagi keluar.

• Hingus / kahak jernih : dijangkiti virus.
• Jika hijau : dijangkiti bakteria.
• Jika kuning : dijangkiti samada bakteria atau virus

Mengenal batuk kahak :

• kahak jernih = badan sejuk = dirawat dgn madu, buah delima dan kena makan makanan bersifat panas.

• kahak pekat/kuning/hijau = badan panas = dirawat dengan barli atau air asam jawa dan kena makan makanan bersifat sejuk.

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Emir Danish @ 2 years 7 mths old

at 2 years 5 months, dah pandai linkkan huruf dangan perkataan.
contohnya A utk apa?
'Abangggg
'Adikkk

I untuk apa?
'Ibuuuu

pandai baca A to Z when he was 2 years 2 months old.
and start semalam aku perasan dia tegur aku bawak kete laju time nak pegi opis. he said, 'mammaaa jangan bawak laju2 laa. nanish jatuh niii..
comel je kan budak 2 thn tegur omak.
sejak bila ntah pandai sound2 orang ni kan.

kelmarin dia dah turun bawah dulu, tunggu kitorang bersiap. papa dia still kat bilik air, aku tengah gosok baju. dari bawah dengar dia jerit, 'papa oo papaaa cepat sikit laaaa..

yes, he's an intelligent kid.
that's some of the good advantage of sending your kids to nursery instead of babysitter.

tapi sgt kesian je sebab macam selalu diabaikan sbb perhatian mmg of course more to Aaira.
but Danish mmg pandai bawak diri.
malam2 bila Aaira dah tidur, and aku peluk dia, mesti danish cakap, 'mama, mama pergi bagi susu adik je la.

oh sweet...

maksudnya tak payah la nak susah2 caring2 peluk dia, jaga adik je la.
haha

and Aaira is entering her 9 months in a few days.
dah lepas dua2 tangan okkk budak kecik nih.
tapi belum berjalan lagi la.
tempat feveret ialah dapur.
pantang leka mesti jumpa dia kat dapur.
omak malas nak pasang safety gate.

and with this two kids around, agak senang utk maintain slim.
and I learn to do things faster, eat faster, mandi faster, pendek kata semua serba cepat lah. kang mcm mana nak concentrate mkn kalau sorang sibuk, mama, mama, adik pegi dapur. kang sorang lagi dah sibuk turun naik tangga lompat2. fuh fuh.

I am 49 kg time raya aritu and skrg dah 50 kg balik. but the numbers gets around mcm tu je la takde naik banyak sangat so of cos I'm hepi, kan.

and by the way sempena nak abis raya ni, aku nak ucapkan Selamat Hari Raya pada semua ya.

hihi. nampak no berzaman tak update blog kan.

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Cara Urutan Perineum

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Pertama sekali basuh tangan anda, kemudian lakukan ditempat yang selesa atau privasi. Duduk atau bersandar mengikut keselesaan anda, Boleh juga meminta bantuan suami. Letakkan Minyak Kelapa Dara (VCO) ke ibu jari anda dan kawasan sekitar faraj / perineum.

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Lakukan rutin urutan ini setiap hari bermula dari minggu 30 kehamilan. Anda akan dapati kawasan Perineum / vagina anda lembut dan tidak tegang.


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si cantek Aaira

little Aaira is 7 mths 2 weeks old now.
dah tumbuh gigi 2 batang.
dah merangkak when she was 5 mths++ and dah duduk start 6 bln.
dah berdiri secara lepas tangan sebelah dengan berlagaknye sejak 7 bln ye.

gigih tu budak pompuan ni dok panjat baby cot, grill pintu and playpen abang dia.

yes, she's growing up well...
and... she'll be a toddler soon!

my oh my, how time flies...
mommy will never gets enough of you baby...
bau yg busuk masyam tapi tetap sedap dan sentiasa dirindu. hihi

Aaira is wearing Autumnz Headbands by CHARMSandCOLORS
murah, super comel and selesa!
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Sekian.

10 (mildly shallow) Reasons to Breastfeed

Suddenly terpaut dgn ini Scarymommy website.

I read lesser nowadays.

Seriously tak cukup masa ok.

Balik kerja adalah waktu bersama dgn Aaira and Danish, bagi the kids makan, wait till their papa came home then I'll have my bathe, time utk tidurkan diorang and selalunya aku pun ikut tertidur sekali. Pukul 12 tiba-tiba terjaga, so packing barang utk pos esoknya sambil borak2 kejap dengan hubby, then nyambung tidur.

So, pilihan adalah di situ.
Family, memasak, mengemas or membaca.
Sekian.

oh by the way, these are some gud article to share with you from Scarymommy.

...

I breastfeed my kids.
I’m passionate about it.
I’m righteous about it. But I’m not entirely honest about it. I advertise that I do it for the heartfelt and health-related reasons we’ve all heard from other moms and pediatricians a bazillion times. But come on. If there weren’t also some hardcore mama-centric reasons to let my kid nibble on my nips for a year, I’d never be able to endure the insane commitment. These are the reasons that see me through the worst breastfeeding days and get me to hang in there when I want to bail. They’re pretty damn shallow, but whatever. They get the job done. Need some reasons to breastfeed, too? 

1. Milk boobs are awesome. Have you seen milk boobs? The new-mom, my-milk-just-came-in(!!) boobs? They’re glorious. They’re porn star glorious except they’re REAL. They’ll make even the staunchest feminist reconsider her rabid stance on breast augmentation. These fabulous tits were a fabulous surprise after my first child, and a highly anticipated perk (for both my husband and me) after my second.

2. I don’t have to work out. My baby weight lost itself because breastfeeding burns 500-800 calories A DAY. Even my best workout when I was in my twenties and maintaining a hot college body to bring the boys to the yard didn’t burn 800 calories. How crazy would I be to opt out of something that burns a shitload of calories while I sit on my ass, snuggling my baby, in my thirties?

3. I don’t feel remotely guilty about what I eat. I need to replace the calories nursing burns otherwise my milk production decreases dramatically. So heeeelllllloooo, Smashburger. Thank you for contributing to the cause of better infantile nutrition. And yes, I would like a salted-caramel shake with that. It’s all in the name of milk production.

 4. I can’t forget my breasts when I leave the house. I’ve forgotten diapers, clothes, blankets, binkies, the stroller, the entire diaper bag after spending 20 minutes packing it, and even the friggen baby, but I’ve never forgotten milk. If you don’t have kids, having one less thing to remember as you herd your family out the door may not seem significant. If you do have kids, you know how significant it is.

5. I get guaranteed breaks during crappy social functions. It is completely acceptable to excuse yourself from a party to nurse your child in private. Even though I don’t really care about privacy, I sometimes take advantage of this understanding to avoid awkward acquaintances and annoying relatives and go play Angry Birds or check Facebook for awhile.

6. Aunt Flo goes on sabbatical... *period ye period* 
Thanks to breastfeeding, I made it 50 weeks sans Aunt Flo after my daughter was born. My son just turned one and I’m still waiting for her return. If you count her absence during my pregnancy, I haven’t seen her in nearly 2 years. TWO YEARS. I don’t miss that bitch at all.

 7. I can instantly comfort my screaming baby without having to troubleshoot the actual problem. Sometimes I’m too tired or busy to try to figure out what the baby is crying about, so I just nurse him. Nine times out of 10, shoving a boob in his mouth calms him down immediately. Note: This also works with his father.

 8. I can have unprotected sex for 6 months. When done correctly, breastfeeding is an effective form of birth control up to the baby’s 6-month birthday. So no hormones for me, and no condoms for my husband, for 6 months. Like I said though, you have to do it right or you end up with Irish twins. Like my parents did. D’oh.

9. Breast milk poop smells a hell of a lot better than formula poop. I have to change a lot of disgusting poopy diapers, so if anything can make them less disgusting, I’m in. Breast milk poop smells, but it doesn’t stink. Not like formula shit. I found this out firsthand when changing a friend’s formula-fed baby. I thought something died in her diaper. I almost called Animal Control.

10. When my kids have kids, I can hold it over their heads that when they were babies, I did everything right and know everything. The extreme commitment and effort of breastfeeding lends a lot of credibility to the future backseat parenting of my grandchildren.

How to be a Happier Mom

how in the world did I ever think that having one kid was so hard?!
having 2 kids are harder okeh.
haha T_T

especially when your hubby and family are not always around.
kalau semua duduk dekat2 ni tak kesah la kan.
ada maid, family dekat, mak dekat, then it will be easy peasy for you.

But nevertheless, it’s not always easy being a mom.
First, you birth them, then you bathe them, then you teach them right from wrong. No matter how hard you try, with all that you do right, you're bound to do some things wrong. You gently guide, praying that your mistakes will be minimal, and their understanding large.

It is very hard as mom when you have discipline problems with the children such as when kids have done something they're not supposed to do, or throw tantrums or give you the silent treatment -- or scream, "I hate you!".

and these are some tips on how to be a happier mom that I get from Wikihow.

• Don't be too hard on your kids. Don't just ground them, or do some other form of punishment, but first talk to them on why this upset you. Take the time to let your kids know that you're not doing this just because you're angry, but because you love them.
• Have a night for some fun! Take a day at least once a week for a girls night out, or a date night. It'll make you feel young, happy, and (possibly) fun and tipsy!
• Relax. Every day always take 15-20 minutes to massage your feet, hands, and shoulders. Especially your feet.
• Be stylish. For example, go shopping for an economical shirt. Doing this and picking out something that makes you feel sexy is a confidence booster.

TIPS :

• Dance, sing! Do this with your kids, it'll make you feel like a better mom and it's a lot of fun.
• When you and your kid are feeling kind of down, then the next day take off from work and disable your kids alarm clock or don't wake them up and surprise them the next morning with their favorite breakfast and a day of hanging out. But only do this with one of your kids so they'll feel special, plus you'll be able to develop a closer relationship, and get to know him or her as a person not just as your son or daughter.
• Smile all the time, when you do it often the smile will stop having to be forced.
• If you find yourself yelling at your kids all the time then try to figure out why your so overly stressed, it'll make everyone feel loads better.
• DON'T OVER DO THE "GOING OUT". If you're out late every night to feel younger or more "alive", then you need to stop. Just stop. If you don't you'll regret it.

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and yesterday baru jumpa one product yg truly amazing for skin.
of course la tiada kandungan bahan kimia kan.

I will never try that SNE pills, Tabita, Tanaka, rumpai laut, Aura White, glutathione whatsoever merepek meraban yg berlambak kat pasaran sebab mcm okkk 'adakah trend everyone boleh buat label sendiri skrg nih without any certification?

I'm very conscious about things yg aku guna utk makan dan sapu pd kulit and I am a pro organic, that's why la cuma menjual produk berasaskan herba and if it's not herbs, it will definitely 100% natural seperti Amway, Shaklee, Tanamera and my fav Nona Roguy.

This product mendapat kelulusan Kementerian Kesihatan, telah dikaji oleh HUKM and sold only by authorized medical practitioner (doctor & pharmacist) and I get to know about this product pun from Dr Hannan.

Average price in the market is RM210++ but of course I'll sell it cheaper and for my beloved blog reader, mestila akan dapat harga yg lebih murah :)

Tapi nanti la baru reveal kot sebab baru nak start guna.
But if u want to know more, or currently searching product yg totally bagus utk kulit (based on customer review), boleh msg saya ya.

If it works for me then I'll definitely promote it here.
Tapi kalau tak berkesan, tak mungkin la akan jual pd korang, kan.
hiks.

Aaira Aleena @ 5 months

Papa and Aaira wearing our new Stork by Snuggbaby.
'cantek kans? hehe

cantek and best.

Aaira is 5 mths & 3 weeks old today.
Sangat banyak cerita dia yg aku tertinggal untuk tuliskan di sini.
as usual, omak yg super bizi.

She already had her first meal last Saturday, waktu berumur 5 bln 2 minggu.

dah kena HFMD, demam, batuk semua la.
complete set.

had her rotavirus & pneumococcal vaccine, etc-etc.
dah bergolek guling, merangkak dari tilam ke bawah meja mkn pun.
cerita seterusnya dlm next-next entry ye =p
...

I'm currently reading Dr Halina's blog and seriously, what she said is absolutely true hokey. Her writings reflect how I feel but still, being a work-at-home-mother-with-HUGE-income is my lifelong ambition. hehe.

"Imagine this.. you’re lack of sleep for days, physically exhausted from all things, caffeine-deprived, one child is crying and screaming, pulling your shirt, the other one screaming for milk, you haven’t bathe, haven’t check your twitter timeline for hours (ok, that is unnecessary but i love to read my twitter timeline!) and all you want to do is just rest preferably in a quiet environment which is almost impossible!!

Admit it, you have had that moment before.. me and my husband, we call it a “what-have-i-done” moment! Haha..

I’m just a human. I’m not perfect, I love my children to bits but still I had my breakdown occasionally especially when I’m super exhausted. It’s ok to feel like that. It’s acceptable and only temporary. We are not angels. As long as we know how to manage it. It should be fine.

Knowing the triggering factor helps your a lot in managing your breakdown. At least you can try to avoid. Another important thing is to let your other half know. My husband, he’s my partner-in-crime (well, we’re not exactly committing a crime here but literally..) My husband has been a great support to me. He knows when I started to look like zombie walking around the house, he will take charge of the children and let me rest. And I do the same for him too.

Sometimes when he’s not around, what I do is I just go somewhere quiet. Usually that will be the toilet! Hahaha… Close my eyes, take deep breath in and out until I feel better, then I switched back to my mommy mode.

If deep breathing doesn’t work.. retail therapy will definitely helps!! They didn’t call it retail therapy for no reason!! Expect parcels to arrive in the next few days

Another option that I do to reduce stress is exercise. I knew the fact that exercise will release endorphin, that is the hormone that makes you feel happy. But I only put up to practice recently. It really makes you feel good about yourself and happy in general.

Or, you can also blog about it and let the whole world know!!

Whatever they do, despite all the crying and sleepless night and screaming and the demands driving me crazy.. my children are my life! I know my “what-have-I-done” moment is just temporary.. it will go away! But my children are forever! And yes, 10 children is still in the plan

My respect goes to all stay-at-home-mom out there. They are just amazing doing same routine day in and day out (and no lunch break, no weekends off, no overtime claim). I’m a type of person who needs to work to become a better mom. I’m telling you being a stay-at-home-mom is much more demanding than being a doctor!!"